This Month’s Afrikan Proverb:
“The surface of the water is beautiful, but no good to sleep on.”
I think there are at least a couple of ways this can be interpreted:
(1) There’s a difference between LOOKING good, and BEING A GOOD PERSON.
While it should go without saying, here it is: Though a person may be physically attractive, he or she could ALSO be mentally and Spiritually UNATTRACTIVE.
Without Spirituality and Culture, it is impossible to make a substantive analysis of a person’s character; without the Armor of Consciousness, people often make judgments of others based on all things superficial.
And it is the judgment based on superficiality that gets SO many people into A LOT of trouble.
While it may be true that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, it is also true that “beauty is skin deep”: A good-looking person with an Evil, demonic spirit, quickly becomes the worst looking thing you’ve ever seen.
This is certainly not to suggest that all “Pretty People” are ugly on the inside; what it does suggest, however, is that people need to learn how to PROPERLY ANALYZE a person’s character, which is impossible to do on looks, alone.
(2) Sincerity and kindness are desirable, “beautiful” traits that the lower-bred human PRETENDS to have, in order to deceive the Righteous.
This one is especially deadly, because Evil people KNOW they can get more mileage out of “pretending” to be good than they ever could out of obvious treachery.
This tactic is used – repeatedly – because of its high success rate.
Since most people are (for the most part) decent folk who want to do the right thing, they naturally – albeit naïvely – expect those around them to be the same. With that mindset, they are often preyed upon by the more disingenuous among us, who use the knowledge of that expectation to further their own agenda.
Which is often the reason we are so upset and disappointed when the people in our lives turn out to be diametrically different from what we believed (and what they had shown us) them to be: We’re shocked that the co-worker we had lunch with every day – for two straight years – stabbed us in the back so she could get the promotion we had rightfully earned.
We’re dismayed to discover that our “friends” secretly hated our guts, and used their intimate knowledge of us to undermine every positive thing we had ever tried to do for ourselves, all the while claiming it was “for your own good”.
We’re in denial over the discovery that even our own family members were drowning themselves in the Hater-Ade, refusing to be happy for any achievement or advancement we made, no matter how small.
We’re saddened by the reality that PEOPLE WILL NOT ALWAYS TREAT US the way WE TREAT THEM.
Simply put, we’re surprised by how well Evil “acts” Good.
Which is why it’s so important to become Conscious. At the core of this Proverb, I believe, is a warning: Learn how to separate the NATURE of a thing from the way it appears, or Heartbreak and Disappointment WILL BE your CONSTANT companions.
The way it looks isn’t always the way it is.